A romantic relationship that is healthy allows both partners to be supported, connected and still have independence. This can look different for different couples. Here are some things to keep in mind:
Healthy relationships include:
Unhealthy relationships include:
If you are experiencing violence or notice that signs of an unhealthy relationship, we encourage you to tell someone. It could be a friend, family member, workmate, teacher, employer, health professional, university support service or community service.
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- Pornography use is very common, and in the current internet age it’s also very accessible. Pornhub’s 2016 year in review report placed New Zealand as 5th highest pornography user per capita.
- Pornography is the primary source of sexual education for young people today (Donevan & Mattebo, 2017; UK National Union of Students, 2014; Flood, 2010; Hooley, 2017).
However, sex depicted in pornography is not how sex usually looks
- Best-selling and most popularly viewed video pornography frequently show scenes involving acts of physical aggression (88.2%) and verbal aggression (48.7%) towards women (Bridges et al., 2010).
- Pornography can show unrealistic messages of what sex is like
- porn stars have often had surgery, waxing, bleaching, and done weight-lifting
- porn often shows unprotected sex with little condom use (Grudzen et al., 2009)
- porn often shows women being manipulated into sex, rather than consent (Klassen et al., 2014). Porn stars are acting—they’re required to show a neutral or pleasurable response even if they don’t like what’s happening
- Pornography use can not only lead to unrealistic expectations around sex, but excessive use can also lead to sexual performance problems.
In contrast to best-selling and most popularly viewed video pornography, healthy sex involves consent, respect for each other, communication and should feel emotionally and physically good for everyone participating.
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